Letting go. (Redeemer and Chief.)

I'm falling, I'm falling.... WAIT, I'm flying. Letting go is not about giving up, it is about giving up control over to God. Relinquishing all fear. Letting the leader of the home, be the leader of the home, and realizing that God is over him as well, even if he doesn't believe so. The same old truth that just because someone doesn't believe, doesn't make the truth change. Truth is truth. God is above. High above. Not even close to anything that disregards or is in opposition to Him as LORD.
First: 1 Corinthians 7:14~ For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
Second: 1 Peter 3:1-6~ Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the reverence and purity of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.
....reverence and purity..... the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.... do what is right and do not give way to fear....
I have been asking for a restored gentle spirit, a sereneness. Wondering when I became so angry. Here are my answers and my how to. And why does it say do not give way to fear? My answer for that came to me this morning. Fear causes distrust; distrust makes one take over leadership, and that leads to not trusting God as well. In an inability to control, I get angry. And then I feel like everything is resting on my shoulders.... but I put it there. It is a vicious cycle. My husband has been showing me favor, the more that I let him be leader. GOD has been giving me favor. I searched more into this on blueletterbible.org (an amazing resource), and the "master" part translated is in one part meaning Chief. I'll take that one- my husband is Chief of the family- he has the power of deciding.
And it is no coincidence that this verse also talks about being a daughter of Sarah. We are the seeds of Abraham, co-heirs with Christ, the daughters of Sarah. (And this partly came out of my Beth Moore, Breaking Free homework, and Galatians 3:26-29.)
So, in all this, I will not remain stuck by my choices but will continue to hold up my part of the bargain, which is to do as God has asked and follow him. My leader, redeemer.